Why Your Long-Distance Relationship Is Failing (And How To Avoid It)

Nobody said that having a love from a distance was easy… to hear some people, it’s even impossible. We hear that long-distance relationships don’t work, and are all doomed to fail. To believe that breaking up is inevitable! Of course, this is not entirely true, but we often find the same elements as the cause. Knowing the common reasons will make it easier to avoid them.

Love from a distance, an adventure full of unexpected

Unless you have made a vow to become a priest or a hermit, wanting to share your life with the one (or the one) you love is a need that has probably already been felt. To obtain satisfaction, it is clear that it will be necessary to decide to brave shyness and fear in order to declare one’s love or to accept the request of one’s conqueror. It should ensue in principle a story full of roses, beautiful thinnings, love and happy ending.

But, things don’t always go as we hope. Regardless of the intensity of the love that binds you to your partner, it may happen that for one reason or another, you are led to separate for a relatively long time without necessarily breaking up. You will then have opted for love from a distance.

Here again, a remark calls out: many are the cases of love from a distance that have gone wrong, and have ended in a fishtail. That’s not to say that long-distance relationships don’t work at all! It’s time today to make you understand the real reasons why many long-distance relationships fail, so that you don’t fall into it yourself.

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Why do most long distance relationships fail?

The prejudice and the influence of what other   

What seems most often to fuel decisions in our society are prejudices. Many have not been able to wait to rethink their romantic relationship before ending it, just because they have believed in received ideas about the incompleteness of long-distance relationships. We often hear that love from a distance does not work, which ends up influencing our psychology.

This is how a partner who is granted a travel opportunity or who has been forced to take off for professional reasons quite simply comes to the resolution of a love breakup at the station, at the airport, at the border of his country of departure, etc. However, not all relationships are the same. Sometimes it’s worth figuring out what the relationship has in store for you by letting the distance run free. Your partner could be exceptional, you could nurture and maintain the flame of your love, if it is true, despite the miles thanks to many means.

The suspicion that weaken your distance relationship

We all have friends who tell us about their experiences and try to give advice as a way of comfort in bad times. Only, if you have opted for a long-distance relationship and you had faith in it, all the advice from your friends is in principle not adapted to your situation.

Considering everything your friends invite you to do could quickly lead you to doubt your partner. Thus, you will not be long in harboring suspicions about the fidelity of your partner momentarily far from you. Such a state of affairs most often leads to the crumbling of the bases, then to the dissolution of the long-distance relationship, and to a breakup.

On the other hand, if you are prone to depression and jealousy, it is clear that the absence of your partner by your side will tend to be equated with detachment, simplistic love, infidelity, betrayal and mistrust. You still need proof that your partner is actually cheating on you!

Insufficient communication, 1st responsible for the failure of a relationship

As you should know, any life as a couple depends mainly on the quality of the communication between the two partners. The more communication there is, the more chances there are for better understanding. A serious relationship, even at a distance, should not derogate from this principle. This is the ideal that many couples in a long distance relationship try to maintain through daily calls and regular messages. Otherwise, you risk missing each other permanently.

However, it is not enough to communicate for form, the most important thing is to be able to tell the truth. Yes, the best couple communications should prioritize truth, sincerity, and realistic projections about the future. Top few interesting exchanges, preferably through eye contact, then the lack of compromise can harm a long-distance relationship. Without communication, it is indeed likely not to work… The same goes for sexuality, which when it is insufficient represents a real threat for the couple. Do you know how to make love from a distance?

lack of belief in long-distance love

Engaging in a long-distance relationship requires sufficiently high morale and, above all, a firm belief that it will work. Not all partners have this ability. In some couples, there are those who try to hold on against the distance but do not succeed, simply because they do not believe in it, lack concrete motivation, conviction. One day, reality ends up hitting them in the face. And if you think for a long time that your relationship is going to fail, that it will never work… chances are it’s happening because of your state of mind!

“Think it’s possible or not, either way it’s true”

Even if it is possible to motivate each other from a distance, physical relationships between humans seem to better strengthen the bonds of love. In truth, many suffer from the fact that their couple has just been formed and does not have a solid base before one of the two partners leaves for another destination for a few months or a few years. In the case where we met the person online, we knew in advance that physical contact would not be very present. In this case, this is part of the initial rules of the game, and you have to accept it! Focus on the date when you will see each other again to better go the distance.

lack of experience can harm the life of a couple from a distance

It is true that no one is born with ready-made experiences. We acquire them with each new situation and over time. On the other hand, it can have consequences in terms of romantic relationships. Inexperience has led many people to not tolerate actions by their partner that they find inappropriate. They finally came to the dissolution of their couple because they were fed up.

In a traditional romantic relationship, many already find it difficult to understand each other due to their lack of experience when they love each other deeply. On this momentum, imagine for yourself what can happen if one of the partners is forced to leave the other for more or less long periods of time.

Huge financial costs due to travel to find each other

For the survival of their couple forced into a distance relationship, some partners have the ingenious idea of ​​scheduling meetings in order to break the obstacle of distance. Organizing a reunion is a good solution to maintain the couple. However, it’s a major challenge, the success of which generally requires a huge financial reserve for rapid return trips. As a result, many start, but few manage to complete this challenge. At least, 8 out of 10 long-distance relationships find themselves unable to continue at such a pace. And without physical contact, some long-distance couples would rather end the relationship than try to make it work.

Prepare for the hard knocks

Ultimately, the failure of long-distance love most often lies in the narrow natural predispositions of the partners. This implies, in general, that many couples do not prepare enough to face the possible hard knocks of the long-distance relationship before finding themselves there. The surprise effect then mixes with the non-control of the other and gives rise to feelings of fragility before leading to total obsolescence. Many couples have managed to take advantage of their long-distance relationship. So it’s not as bad as many seem to believe. We ourselves survived the long distance relationship!

To go further, discover our article provided with tips for a successful long-distance relationship .

And you, do you think that a distance relationship cannot work? Or are you more optimistic?

Author: Erika

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