Radio silence your boyfriend / girlfriend remotely

Radio silence breeds incomprehension, fears and confusion: it’s impossible to know if your other half is no longer answering you because they don’t want to or because they can’t. Of course, we’re not recommending anyone to stop talking to their long-distance relationship partner. But some do, and when you are a victim of “ghosting”, then it is a real source of anxiety. We help you ask yourself the right questions to find out why your remote boyfriend or girlfriend is no longer responding.

More news: what to do in the face of radio silence in a long-distance relationship?

Don’t jump to conclusions too quickly if he/she stops responding

How long has it been since your remote boyfriend or girlfriend answered you? If it’s been a very short time (1 or 2 days), no stress! It is still far too early to conclude anything! Maybe he/she has just been really busy . Also make sure that you yourself do not have a problem receiving text messages, an unstable Internet network , software that requires an update to receive new messages, your last email stuck in an outbox, your partner’s email in your spam box … There are many rational reasons that can make your remote boyfriend/girlfriend stop responding.

Was he/she distant in your long distance relationship?

If the person ignores you, the scenario is often similar : a routine has set in, you talk to each other regularly and have been in a long-distance relationship for some time. Yes, but here you are, you feel that the relationship is faltering, he or she has become distant lately , has taken longer than usual to respond to your messages, and today radio silence. Take stock with yourself: Do you recognize yourself in this description? Objectively, where were you in your relationship? Were you both happy? Were there any warning signs of a decline in your relationship?

A radio silence is a strong symbol in a long-distance relationship : Communication is the only thing that binds you. If it’s broken, there’s kind of no relationship anymore. Take the time to question yourself and the relationship.

If your partner often stops responding to you, it’s a habit on his part, it’s very toxic behavior. Perhaps in this case you should consider parting with it , for your own well-being…

 

The ghosting technique cowardly breaking distance relationship

“ Ghosting  , an English term that could be translated as “the action of turning into a ghost” , is an increasingly common technique and is still as unpleasant and incorrect as ever. This is a breaking method which consists of interrupting all communication with his boyfriend or girlfriend, by ceasing to answer calls, SMS and on other platforms (Facebook, email, mail)… The person disappears from day to day. next day without giving an explanation, and does everything not to be contacted again.

Ghosting and long-distance relationship are unfortunately a common association , as this solution is so simple. Do you think you are a victim of it? As you know your partner, would he/she be able to use a technique such as ghosting to flee your long-distance relationship without fully assuming? Do you have common knowledge that could tell you whether or not this avoidance is to be perceived as a tacit break?

If he avoids or ignores you, accept the distance

If you consciously know that your long-distance boyfriend or girlfriend is simply ignoring you, patience will be your best weapon. Until your partner is ready to talk to you, it is impossible to know if this estrangement is temporary or will last. What is certain, however, is that this person needs time . Even if you are very invested in your relationship,  it takes two to invest for it to prosper : you can’t do anything alone! If he ignores you, it’s likely that your long-distance partner will eventually come back to you and explain himself. Just in case, preparing for a breakup is preferable, to better take the hit…

If he no longer responds is not necessarily voluntary

Don’t jump to conclusions. If absolutely everything was going well and the relationship broke down, the situation may not be within his control . Perhaps the person has lost their cell phone or no longer has Internet access. Do you have another way to reach her? The point isn’t to spam her or harass her with messages, just to make sure she’s okay and there isn’t a bigger problem on the horizon that you aren’t aware of (accident , health problem,…)

In the event of major difficult stages in a life (mourning, dismissal, failed exam, etc.), it is possible that the person needed to take time for themselves and was too preoccupied with the problem that concerns them to think of telling you. , or to find the words to do so. Difficult, for example, to evoke the death of a loved one when the event has just occurred, or to continue to discuss normally as if nothing had happened. In this case, we can instinctively “lock” ourselves, and withdraw into ourselves for a few days. “No news” is not necessarily a sign of “end of distance relationship”.

If he no longer answers the phone, try other means of communication

Maybe it’s just a carrier issue? So try other means than the phone to reach him:
– Skype
– Facebook
– Mail
– E-mail
– SMS
– WhatsApp
– Phone call (leave a message on his answering machine)
– Common application
– Steam
– Discord
– …

If your significant other isn’t listed online anywhere and is usually very active online, it may indicate a problem beyond just avoiding you. Note, however, that we can generally no longer view someone’s online activity if he or she has blocked us.

Find out about this radio silence from his relatives

If you are really worried that something has happened to him,   do not hesitate to contact a member of his family or one of his friends. Even if it’s nothing in the end and his cell phone is just broken, they will be able to understand. If you know his place of work or study, do not hesitate there either to make a call to make sure that all is well. If it’s a matter of safety, you can never be too careful.

Radio silence and long-distance relationship: ensuring the safety of your partner

As a last resort, if you have been in a long-distance relationship for several years , your boyfriend/girlfriend has never had this behavior before and it persists over time (several weeks of unexplained absence), you must price ensure its safety.

If he/she has n’t responded to any of your calls or messages , he/she hasn’t had any online activity since he/she stopped responding, his/her friends and family haven’t heard from them Neither does he (or he has no friends or family you can reach), nor his work or school, this radio silence could well mean a disappearance to be taken seriously . If no one has yet made a report and this radio silence drags on, ask the gendarmerie of his commune to go to his home to check that all is well. It’s just a check-up, but a necessary check-up that can reassure you or help him if necessary.

Have you ever experienced radio silence from your partner? Have you ever had this type of behavior yourself? What were the reasons?

Author: Erika

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