Being in a long distance relationship with someone 5000km away is not the same as being 100km apart! Of course, both are long-distance relationships, and many constraints are the same. But conducting an international relationship has a few sides that are very particular to it… We take stock!
How to survive a long distance relationship in two different countries?
Difference between “Very Long Distance Relationship” and “International Relationship”
We have become accustomed through this blog to talk about long-distance relationships. By dint of talking about it, reading about it and of course living it, we end up feeling the feeling that our world is divided in two: Couples in a long-distance relationship and couples who are lucky enough to live together . But, come to think of it, even the world of couples in long distance relationships is divided . Are you surprised by this hook? Don’t worry, you’ll quickly get the idea.
Do you know what is the difference between a French boy in a relationship with a beautiful Italian and another French boy in a relationship with a beautiful Mexican?
The two couples live in a long-distance relationship in different countries, hundreds of kilometers apart. They are therefore similar, except for one detail:
- The former will be able to message or call him at 11 a.m. and his girlfriend will answer him more or less around 11 a.m. , even though they are in an international long-distance relationship.
- The second can do the same thing, but given the 6 hour time difference, it is not obvious that his girlfriend will answer him before 5 a.m. … which makes it a so-called “very long distance” relationship. , and even more complicated!
Fortunately, this does not prevent many couples from embarking on this beautiful relationship adventure in two different countries, sometimes very far apart. France/United States, Canada/Australia or Spain/Germany long-distance relationships are much more common than you might think!
A long-distance married life is punctuated by jet lag
Jet lag is often a big issue in very long distance relationships . Living both far away, but also totally out of step with your soul mate can be extremely penalizing in the long term… Depending on the distance that can separate the lovers from each other, the long distance relationship may more or less manageable. Even with a lot of love, getting up at 4 a.m. for a Skype with the woman of your life is never easy!
Remember to send you little words and attentions. For example, always say “good morning” to yourself in the morning and “good night” when you go to bed. Even if you are in two very different time zones! Also try to find time to call each other on Skype or WhatsApp at least once a week. Hearing you will reduce the feeling of distance between you a little.
Many ways to communicate in long distance relationship
Skype, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Facebook, Discord: There is no shortage of ways to communicate on the other side of the world! Help yourself to these new technologies to spend time together. Play online video games together, send each other photos, audio files, videos… These little touches will help you get closer every day. This is one of the keys to a successful long distance relationship .
The longer the distance between the couple, the greater the budget!
Plane costs, accommodation, exchange rates not always in your favour: the numbers go up quickly when it comes to an international distance relationship. Generally, when you are in two different countries, you see each other less frequently but longer to offset and optimize travel costs.
Be sure to plan your trip as far in advance as possible , in order to save money on planes and hotels by making reservations, sometimes with a nice discount! If you both work, you will also need to make sure to take days off at the same time , which is sometimes a delicate task.
Look out for bargains! For example, it has become easier and cheaper to travel within Europe itself. For example, Flixbus lines or carpooling systems allow the distance barrier to be broken relatively easily for intra-European connections. To make cool gifts without breaking the bank , you can also make gifts to make yourself . This way you will save more to be able to see you!
Being in a relationship with a foreigner: a travel opportunity
On the other hand, if you try to focus on the glass half full, it is also the opportunity to bring or meet your companion in a totally atypical and exotic place .
While some couples are drowned in the daily grind of the metro, work, sleep, you have the opportunity to travel and visit extraordinary places! A bargain that will make many jealous. And then let’s be honest, with your spouse as a guide, the memories you will bring back will surely be much stronger and more powerful.
Incredible reunions, charged with emotions
To be separated by thousands of kilometers day after day, week after week is a difficult thing. Let’s admit, however, that the excitement of finding your man or wife after several months of absence is relatively strong and that this reunion will allow you to experience sensations that no other couple will have ever experienced.
So yes, long distance love is complicated, and we are not trying to explain the opposite to you here. But we would almost come to say that this interminable wait is finally good sometimes. After all, reunions are always so strong emotionally, physically and sexually! Discover our guide to organize them as well as possible
An international long-distance relationship is a true cultural exchange
International long-distance relations are also an exchange and sharing of wealth. Perhaps you are one of the couples who do not speak the same mother tongue? It is incredible to see that some manage to erase any language barrier, by adopting a common language like English. This represents a hell of an additional challenge in a relationship, and must be a wonderful human adventure.
You immerse yourself in the culture of one country and your companion in the culture of another country. At the time of the reunion you will exchange your impressions and points of view , you will share long and intense discussions.
And then one day, your couple will fall in love. In love with a district, a city, a country. And it may be in this place that both of you will meet to settle down together for good, and end the distance in your relationship.
And you, do you live in a different country than your other half? What do you appreciate in this “international” dimension of your long distance relationship?