How do I know if he/she really loves me in a Long Distance Relationship?

The heart has its reasons that reason ignores as we often hear… The problem is that although very powerful, it happens that this love is eaten away by distance and that the heart ends up no longer supporting the miles that separate you. It’s easy to see if someone likes you when you share moments together. Gesture, attitude, gaze and many other criteria can be analyzed in order to understand very quickly what is going on in the head of your other half. But in a long-distance relationship, how do you know if the love is still strong and truly mutual? How do you know if he is sincere? We sometimes come to ask ourselves these questions about our boyfriend or girlfriend. We will try to enlighten you through this article.

Does he/she sincerely love me despite the distance? The keys to find out

My boyfriend/girlfriend is distant, doesn’t talk to me anymore. What to think?

With the passage of time, it sometimes happens that we begin to feel our partner more and more distant. Fewer messages, fewer calls, fewer complicit moments… We have the feeling that something is wrong. The worst reaction in this situation is to tell yourself “it will pass” and to wait and do nothing. If you feel that your partner’s behavior is changing and your half is starting to drift away, you must react directly by playing the honesty card! 

Whether it’s by text, video call or phone call, you need to calmly explain to your partner that he or she seems to be becoming more and more distant and that you are starting to question your feelings. By saying all this to each other in a calm, gentle, and intelligent way , your partner is very likely to confide in you and explain to you what is wrong (if something is wrong). Lack of attention, sexual frustration, need for tenderness, weariness related to the situation, many factors can make your partner more and more cold . Your mission will therefore be to take stock together, see where your love is at, and try if necessary to find a way to rekindle the flame. Even from a distancetalking is probably the best way to know if he or she really loves you.

“I doubt my partner, does he love me?” : reflect on the reasons for this fear

In some situations, no matter how much you talk and take stock with your soul mate, you may not always be completely satisfied with their answers and will continue to question you because of their behavior which seems more and more suspicious to you. … But above all, do not draw hasty conclusions. Instead, try to rationally describe the reasons why you think your partner no longer has love for you.

Among these, a few cases to watch out for particularly in a long-distance relationship.
My boyfriend/girlfriend:

  • speaks badly to me
  • has been cold or distant lately
  • often lies to me
  • is aggressive
  • disrespect me
  • don’t make an effort
  • constantly putting me down

If any of these signs speak to you, you may be right to doubt his feelings. It is therefore important to talk about it to improve your relationship from a distance.

Communicate your feelings instead of assuming: essential in love from a distance

Use the means at your disposal to try to find out more about what he or she is thinking. Start by… talking to him about it . Most of the time, it’s simple misunderstandings that make the relationship difficult .

Maybe your boyfriend/girlfriend is going through a stressful time, and can’t afford to spend as much time with you as usual due to a heavy workload or problems in his/her life. family for example. That doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t love you anymore! Simply that your partner already has too much to think about, and it affects your long-distance relationship.

Fear that he/she is cheating on me and no longer loves me: how do I know?

Ask yourself the question “Does he really love me?” is usually indirectly asking the question “Isn’t he getting closer to someone else?” » . The long-distance relationship is an adventure in which everyone must be very strong and not everyone is always able to resist the various temptations of life.

To be sure that he or she really likes you, you can possibly try to find out more about the people they meet. For this, social networks are generally your best ally. This practice may amount to espionage, and we do not recommend it. But if you already have reason to think that your long-distance partner no longer loves you, you have nothing to be ashamed of. The long-distance relationship is built on trust, but there’s nothing wrong with doing some research if you feel your significant other is growing colder. Observe his new friends, the people with whom he or she appears, and especially the way he or she responds to your messages.

Everything is to be taken into consideration, and if your soulmate really loves you, she must be able to clearly answer all the questions you ask her. Without falling into paranoid delusions or insane fits of jealousy , you have the right to seek to know more and use the means at your disposal to find answers to your questions. Here is a more comprehensive article to try to determine if he/she is cheating on you .

Loving each other from a distance starts with… proofs of love

The moment you begin to question the sincerity of your partner’s feelings for you, your partner is n’t showing you enough love. If he doesn’t show you enough that he loves you, he or she is also guilty and therefore must reassure you, and be honest. In a long distance relationship, showing and proving your love is more important than anything. Also take stock with yourself: do you, too, give enough proof of love to your other half on a daily basis?

In long-distance love, “Trust” is the key word 

In summary, let’s be honest, you can never be 100% sure that he or she really loves you, that is the principle of love. Again, trust is key. However, you should not hesitate to ask the angry questions if you start to feel that your partner is pulling away. You should also not hesitate to use the means at your disposal to try to find out more if the answers have not convinced you. Always seek to understand, and to communicate, while keeping the right balance so as not to fall into excess.

And you, what are the little things that make you say that he/she loves you… or that you are right to doubt it?

Author: Erika

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