How do I know if he/she is cheating on me? Infidelity and Long Distance Relationship

No matter how much you love your partner, no matter how much you trust him, You have to keep in mind that a misstep sometimes happens… whether you realize it or not, it’s a once in a while. single or not. Cheating sometimes occurs in a long-distance relationship, and unfortunately it is difficult to realize! It is then necessary to find a good compromise so as not to have blind confidence without sinking into paranoia. How to detect the infidelity of your girlfriend or boyfriend in a long-distance relationship? Here are some signs of cheating to be on the lookout for.

Infidelity in a long-distance relationship: how to detect it?

Causes of adultery in a couple at a distance

What reasons could have led to a deception? In the case of a long-distance relationship, infidelity can result from many factors. But, it is already necessary that you define what, according to you, can be qualified as infidelity. Could it be kissing someone else? Could it be flirting with another person?… while your partner is in a relationship with you! In general, three main explanations are frequently given on this subject:

  • Sexual or physical lack
    The worst would be a previous dependence on sex. Your partner may have been used to more regular intercourse before or has significant needs, the lack may be harder to manage. This need to satisfy his carnal pleasures will then be likely to lead him to satisfy his sexual urges with someone other than you who are absent. Others need physical affection in a broader sense: hugs, attention… 
  • Lack of communication / Lack of recognition
    Next, the lack of communication can cause someone to cheat on their partner. The moment he/she no longer feels listened to or no longer loved, he/she will want to seek comfort from another person. Its objective being to flee the conjugal routine and to make up for its lack of love, infidelity will very quickly set in, especially if you are going through a bad period. Hence the crucial importance of communicating with his/her partner 
  • Emotional instability (loneliness, depression…)
    Finally, when emotional instability gets involved, we have a rather important reason to warn you that your partner is likely to cheat on you. First of all, remember that your partner may have changed their living environment , and may be feeling disoriented or depressed. Or maybe he/she feels lonely without you . The longer his/her stay away from you, the more he/she will be able to be attracted by the physique of another person apart from you. 
  • “Couple sickness” and Sensation of imprisonment
    Some people seem to have couple sickness and cannot stay in a relationship, they have the impression of being tamed or imprisoned in it. And their personality disorders seem to provide strength to the libertinism they prefer. They thus fall into infidelity. If this is their first relationship, your spouse may be even more prone to this phenomenon.

Unfaithful or not? Avoid misunderstandings

In love, misunderstandings abound . A little twist in the language could be enough to lend intentions to his partner. Of course, this is completely normal: we are all human and there is no perfect one, some would say to justify this state of affairs. When not resolved early on, these misunderstandings often lead to complications and even a breakup within the couple.

Between a traditional romantic relationship and another at a distance, the difference is rather evocative about misunderstandings. Cases of infidelity, for example, seem easier to hide in long-distance relationships , and can end up having a negative influence on exchanges between partners. After all, no matter how much love you have between partners, you must not forget that you are made of flesh capable of succumbing to desires and pleasures.

How do I know if he’s cheating on me in a long distance relationship? 

Admittedly, it is difficult to prove outright that your long-distance boyfriend or girlfriend has committed infidelity when he/she is currently thousands of miles away from you. But, there are several clues to help you detect his lack of interest in your person and his possible games of deception. Watch for these signs to try to figure out if he/she is cheating on you despite this long distance relationship.

Sign 1 – Indifference, lack of conversation

The first clue that could challenge you is that of indifference. If, repeatedly, your partner no longer takes the lead in conversations when he was the driving force, there is reason to wonder. This decline in interest may be a sign of infidelity in progress or already committed.

Sign 2 – Aggressive, “defensive” person

The second clue concerns the suddenly aggressive character of your partner. In fact, without necessarily knowing it, an unfaithful partner generally no longer has the same tone in the exchanges of conjugal life. Nothing at all will lead him to anger or gratuitous malice. He will find it easy to argue with you. In short, he will almost always be tense towards you.

Sign 3 – Repeated absences and excuses

None of the two previous clues were noticed? Well, the third clue might capture your attention. These are the common excuses your partner may make. It could be about his work, for example, if he said he was working overtime and being too busy all the time to spend a few minutes with you. Imagine that together with your partner, you had repeatedly planned a physical meeting to drop the weight of the distance… a meeting that will never hold because it will be postponed every time at the last minute.

Sign 4 – Change in attitude and habits

Fourth clue, your boyfriend / girlfriend at a distance gives the best of himself in order to appear more elegant than usual. His way of life improves surprisingly, his attitudes are more and more oriented seduction of the opposite sex. Be alert, it is very likely that infidelity is on the horizon.

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Consequences of deception

Once hard evidence has been gathered that indeed adultery has been committed by one of the couple’s long-distance partners, the repercussions are not insignificant . They are obviously negative not only on your own emotional state, but also on your couple.

It is difficult for the victim to forgive the unfaithful partner. Nevertheless, the intensity of love being strong in some couples, there are some who manage to forgive rightly or wrongly after having confronted their partner with his actions. Only, giving him another chance to redeem himself is not easy , and sometimes just not the right thing to do, because it is painful to forget our painful experiences, and to trust someone again. one who lied to us.

The victim of the deception will henceforth issue reservations towards his partner. She will often wonder about the tastes of the unfaithful partner, wonder if he deserves her. Confidence will therefore no longer be total.  There will always be doubt, even several months later. The offender will struggle to resume the normal course of his married life without blaming himself for the mistakes of the past. Later, an instinctive emotional instability will take place . Then, the couple will pour into frequent arguments and acts of revenge . All of this could end in a rupture due to perpetual misunderstandings.

If it turns out that your partner has cheated on you, it is better to cut short the long-distance relationship as soon as he confesses infidelity rather than going through this painful pattern… 

How to avoid infidelity as a couple from a distance?

We can’t control the behavior of our other half, but we can make ours irreproachable. And make sure to put in place the right “bricks” in the foundations of your long-distance relationship. This won’t prevent a deception for sure, but it will increase the chances that it doesn’t happen. Here are those keys:

  • Communication !
    This is the real engine of a successful long-distance relationship. It all starts from there. By cultivating it, you will be able to maintain and even grow the emotional ties between you and your partner. But don’t forget that long-distance couple communication must be accompanied by seduction. As long as your partner feels desired, he/she will keep the evolution of your relationship. He could definitely dissuade himself from lending himself to the games of deception.
  • Maintain a fulfilling sex life
    Now that there are connected sex toys with cutting-edge technology, nothing is stopping you from making love, even from a distance. A real boost that could perhaps be enough to prevent certain impulses…
  • Nst ir  all your principles
    Before a geographical barrier separates you must, in the first months of your relationship, ensure establish the principles to which each of you holds; principles to which everyone will have to devote respect, failing which a common sanction will have to be applied to the culprit or the culprit, for example.
  • Do not be too jealous 
    Avoiding infidelity from a distance also involves the need to give your partner a bit of freedom. Seeming too jealous of him can easily push him away and lead him to devote himself to whoever might not make him feel imprisoned. If you show yourself to be too possessive, this risks being counterproductive and giving the opposite effects to those you are looking for!  Learn to cure your jealousy if it takes a disproportionate place. 

No magic formula against adultery

To conclude, long- distance infidelity is a situation that can happen to anyone. If you have not yet had the misfortune to fall there, you are not spared. And even by trying your best to protect yourself from it ,  you can never guarantee your partner’s behavior 100% : everyone makes their own choices. 

If after reading this article you think that your long-distance boyfriend / girlfriend is cheating on you or has cheated on you, the best thing is to talk about it with him / her,   and to keep a critical eye on these words. If his arguments seem dubious to you, it may be because they are: never hesitate to seek advice from your friends or relatives who will have an objective view .

If he/she has been unfaithful, move on and don’t fall apart. The advantage of a long-distance relationship and that it is also easier to cut ties: you have fewer friends in common, you are unlikely to meet on the same street… Perhaps you will need these tips for breaking up long distance

And you, have you ever been cheated on in a long distance relationship? Did you end it then?

Author: Erika

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