15 pros and cons of the long distance relationship

Nothing is ever white or black: a long-distance relationship is a colorful adventure, with sometimes vivid contrasts of emotions. Here are the advantages and disadvantages that we have found so far. Whether it’s to weigh the pros and cons, to know whether or not you should engage in a long distance relationship, or just for the love of lists!

The pros and cons of a long distance relationship

1. Benefits of being in a long-distance relationship

Because when you love, you don’t need reasons, but it still feels good to remember the good sides of your long-distance relationship when you’re feeling down!

  1. We feel in love, light
  2. We are loved , and it’s just a pleasant feeling
  3. We have a very special person dear to our hearts who somewhere thinks very much of us and of whom we think in return
  4. Having time for yourself is great
  5. The distance is only temporary
  6. You quickly learn to be resourceful ! Good transport plans, budgets: we learn that very quickly because… we have to say that we have no choice
  7. We mature , and even better, we see each other evolve
  8. We see the country, we travel, we discover new landscapes , incredible people, different traditions
  9. As we communicate a lot, we know each other very well
  10. It feels like we have a real secret garden
  11. We know better than anyone the value of the moments spent together
  12. Great moments in bed during the reunion, intense: we let go to catch up with our neglected sexuality !
  13. You can wait a few more days without waxing (ok, this one is from Sara!)
  14. We live a human experience that few people have had the chance to know
  15. The wait on the eve of the reunion is a bit of the same euphoria as waiting for Santa Claus on December 24

 

2. Disadvantages of loving each other from a distance

And the bad sides of love from a distance, because yes, we never hid that there were! It’s unfortunately part of the rules of the game, but believe me, the game is worth it

  1. Difficulties in seeing each other: cost, time, work/studies/family responsibilities…
  2. Small bouts of depression when the other is not there
  3. Lack and absence of physical presence (kisses, hugs, caresses, sexuality)
  4. We celebrate important dates separately (Valentine’s Day, birthday, Christmas)
  5. Sometimes we say to ourselves “I would have liked so much for you to see that!” / “that you meet this person” / “that we go there this weekend!”, but it is not possible
  6. Fall asleep alone at night
  7. A long-distance relationship costs more in money, time and sometimes energy! Casually it’s a hell of a budget for travel / parcels / letters / adequate telephone plan
  8. Paranoia and jealousy are common things that are hard to get out of your head when you only see each other a few times a year.
  9. Sometimes there’s jet lag and life pressures that make it hard to call each other.
  10. The moments of saying goodbye at the airport or at the train station are painful, you feel all alone and a little sad afterwards, you don’t want to let the person go but just lock them up in their closet
  11. And besides, no matter how many times you see your other half, it’s never enough ! We always want to see it!
  12. Sometimes you don’t see the end of the long distance relationship coming, it seems to get longer and longer
  13. Misplaced comments and sometimes heavy gaze of others
  14. This moment when walking we meet couples hand in hand
  15. It’s quite an organization to see each other , you have to plan it months in advance if you want to have plane or train tickets at a decent price!

3. An adventure that is still worth it!

So, the distance relationship, good or bad compromise? Well, unsurprisingly, this listing brings a rather nuanced opinion, representative of many couples!

Sara and I put together this list together, and I’ll tell you that despite all the downsides of a long-distance relationship, we couldn’t be happier together! After all, in itself, it’s neither good nor bad, any more than a classic relationship. Loving from a distance simply brings a few additional constraints, which quickly become assets and will help you get closer.

And you, what advantages/disadvantages of the long distance relationship would you add to this list?

Author: Erika

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