The distance relationship, real relationship? Overcome the gaze of others

It is difficult to overcome the gaze of others. Friends, family: all want your good but do not necessarily go about it the right way. However, what you would like is simply for those around you to accept this relationship in order to fully develop yourself! How then to overcome the gaze of others in a long-distance relationship?

Dealing with the gaze of others on your long-distance relationship

Reviews: not all reviews are created equal

Everyone wants to give their opinion, but not everyone has a relevant opinion. Listen only to people who are important to you , whose opinion matters to you and seems objective to you. This is valid in the case of long-distance relationships as for all areas of life! There will always be people who are naturally hateful and know better than everyone else to tell you that you are making the wrong choices… but are they happy ?

So always assess the source of these criticisms before letting the gaze of others have a negative impact on your relationship. Is it from friends? Strangers? Relatives? And even so, do you have reason to believe that these people have had similar experiences as a couple in the past? So many questions to ask.

Long-distance relationships, a “true” love, without artifice

It is often said that long distance relationships are not real relationships. My experience of more than 4 years in love at a distance far from my companion makes me say quite the opposite .

A long-distance relationship is a relationship without cheating : the only bond that binds us on a daily basis is no longer evenings with friends, the desire for hugs or sexuality but only communication. So yes, we can talk about anything, and that’s great . Appearance has no place in a long-distance relationship.  it is therefore less superficial , more “real”

A real human adventure that is difficult to understand for anyone who has not experienced it. And which can impress, even frighten, but which in any case makes people react. That’s why so many people want to give their opinion on the subject and are sometimes pessimistic.

Believe in your long distance relationship

We hear beautiful nonsense around us! Some mean people will say you’re in a long distance relationship because that was your only way to find someone. Others will claim loud and clear that your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t even exist. Sometimes out of jealousy, sometimes out of stupidity, sometimes because they will have limiting beliefs deeply rooted in them.

The bloodiest people will want them to close the valve, but after all, why do it? No one lives your relationship for you , if you are good there, no matter what is said around you. Believe in yourself and your relationship , and don’t let these criticisms get to you. Living in a long-distance relationship can be hard enough as it is! So get it in your head that yes, this is indeed a “real relationship”, and that you don’t need others to be happy.

Do not confuse criticism with curiosity

Some people are simply curious : it’s a way of life so different from what they have lived that they will really and without bad intentions question the nature of your relationship, asking for example what differentiates your girlfriend remote or remote buddy of just a friend you wouldn’t see often.

Do not hesitate to answer this type of question which is not intended to harm . These clumsy questions are often based on the preconceived idea that a couple is a couple as long as they have regular sex. Talking about it helps to demystify the thing!

Don’t break up your long-distance relationship because of judgments

The gaze of others can be destructive. Never let the opinion of someone you don’t care about ruin a relationship with someone you care about. This may seem logical, but we tend to forget it once under the flood of negative remarks.

The most complicated is still when a friend or a member of your family opposes this relationship. If it is impossible to reason with the person, then it will be necessary to make a choice which can be painful or difficult, between your darling and this toxic person for you.

Always remember that no one is going to live your life or your relationship for you . Nor your life. If this situation makes you happy, even if it displeases someone who matters to you, should you end the relationship   Take stock with yourself and try to talk about it to caring people around you, starting with your partner. Maybe your boyfriend / girlfriend also finds it difficult to bear the judgments of others on your love from a distance!

Take a step back from the situation

Take a step back, by talking with a psychologist, or by reading articles and opinions on the internet . Many people live exactly the same situation as you , and discuss it every day on forums. inspiring testimonials from people who have been there before you can be comforting and guide you on the right choices to make for your long-distance relationship and your personal fulfillment. Follow tips for a successful long-distance relationship , and it will only be better for it!

I often receive messages from people telling me “my mother doesn’t accept our long-distance relationship”, “I can’t stand the way other people look at our couple anymore”, “I’m told that long-distance is not a real relationship”… But you are the only master on board of your life. Time will take care for you to show them that if this beautiful adventure was worth the cost. But you don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

Author: Erika

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